things that are NEVER said when people think a het pairing will become canon:
"why do you have to sexualize everything?"
"you just want to see them fuck"
"you’re disrespecting the actors"
"no one wants to see that"
"they should leave it purely ambiguous and subtextual"
so, yeah, if you say them about a queer pairing i’m about 9000% certain you’re being homophobic no matter what excuses you make
we have all read fanfiction that we shouldn’t have
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just open up tag viewer on this post and settle in with a snack cause ain’t nobody sleeping tonight, friends
installing tag viewer for this was the best decision i ever made
#there was one with a lamp #it was wild
I am so entirely sick of people ragging on characters that want/try to do the right thing. see: Captain America, see: Superman, see: Scott McCall
It’s always so utterly transparent too. Like I get it, these characters make you uncomfortable because you see them in all the most awful, horrible situations, the kind of rock and a hard place that would break anyone, only it doesn’t break them, it doesn’t force them into the darkness, it doesn’t keep them from being good and kind, and that freaks you the fuck out because you know, were you in that same place, if you had to make those same choices, you wouldn’t be good and kind, you would compromise. (and I include myself here, I’m no Captain America, none of us are really, but why should that mean we shouldn’t try to be? where did we all get this idea that it’s wrong to try to be good and can we pls get rid of it)
And for some of you, it just infuriates you, how dare someone challenge you or your beliefs, how dare they make you question your actions. You hear things like “You will give the people an ideal to strive towards. They will race behind you, they will stumble, they will fall. But in time, they will join you in the sun” and your reaction is I don’t want to join you in the sun, I want to drag you down to earth and make you just as twisted and wretched as the rest of us because I can’t stand the idea that I could ever be wrong about things, that I could ever need to grow and change and become better.
And I’m just so sick of it. I’m sick of people being enamored with darkness and amorality. I’m sick of people glorifying characters that are absolutely horrible (yes some of the most interesting characters, and some of my favorites even, are not always good guys, but jfc they are not who we should aspire to be like) and trashing characters just for having the audacity to be good people. I’m sick of people acting like being a giant asshole or even legitimately terrible wrong person is ‘cool’ or ‘edgy’, it’s not, it’s really fucking not. Being good is cool. Doing the right thing is edgy (don’t believe me, try doing it for once and see how much push back you get, it’s not so easy being good). Being better then you were a year ago, a month ago, yesterday, that’s cool. Captain America and Superman and all the other characters that challenge us to do better, be better, they are fucking cool.
Hey anon, I’ve been thinking for a while on this and how to be of help when I don’t know anything about you or your circumstances. The thing I keep coming back to in my head is “ask for help”. If you can’t handle things on your own, you need to rely on others to give you a hand until you can pull yourself out of your downswing. What you did with me is great! It takes a lot of courage to open yourself up like this, and what I would recommend is to do it to someone close to you, who can actually help you in some tangible way.
If you have family or friends that would be willing to help you out, it’s important that you open up to them and ask them to help you until you feel better (we all need a rest every so often. There’s no shame or deficiency in this).
If your family and/or friends aren’t cooperative (which is sadly more common than one would think), there’s always therapy/psychiatry (though depending on where you live, this might unfortunately not be an option for you), and if all else fails, you can just try to get a reprieve from your responsibilities for a while, until you can get your stress levels down to somewhere more manageable. If you can take vacations, that would be a good thing to do right now.
I’m sorry I can’t be more specific, but the key of the issue is that you shouldn’t feel like you have to shoulder everything on your own. It’s okay to rely on people, especially when you are very pressured and a lot depends on you. And if you can’t, then it’s time to get rid of some responsibilities, at least temporarily.
Thanks for the ask! I really hope things get better for you, and I am so proud of you for taking the first step to solving your problems (instead of just letting things get worse and worse until you collapse).
Colton and Daniel did the same and they get written out without dying. Sinqua, Gage and Crystal get written out by dying. The only actress Jeff spared this was Adelaide. and I am guessing the only reason he did this was because he realised that killing Cora after Derek sacrificed his alphahood to save her was shit writing.